Oh, this is
the creature that doesn't exist . . .
In fact, it
never was. But since they loved it,
a pure beast
came to be.
-- Rainer Maria
Rilke
The
unicorn, serene and white, is a strong and
graceful animal with the body of a horse.
A single
white horn grows from its brow, making it unique
among all animals.
It is
gentle, shy, and good, and though stories have
been told about it for centuries, many people say
it never existed.
We call it
a myth, yet in telling its story, we make it
real.
Friendship
is like the unicorn: created from faith.
Before we
speak, reach out, believe in the possibility of
relations with another, friendship does not exist.
But when
we share a meal, a joke, or a walk -- a piece of
ourselves -- we open up to two friends . . . one
in the other person, the other within
ourselves.
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One comes in the end to realize
that there is no
permanent pure relationship
and there should not
be.
-- Anne Morrow
Lindbergh
Whether we
are teenagers in love for the first time, or
parents who have been married for twenty years, relationships can turn into
obsessions if we're not careful.
We can lose
our sense of self and only feel complete when
we're with the other person.
We can
become totally attached and dependent on the
primary person in our lives for all our
needs.
We need to
remember that we can be a good partner in a
relationship only if we feel complete within
ourselves. Keeping ourselves open to change in our
surroundings, our loved ones, and especially
ourselves helps us stay whole.
We
learn, first, to be ourselves, to make independent
choices.
We dare to
do things on our own.
Things as
simple as going for a walk by ourselves and
smelling the scents of nature.
Being
ourselves means bringing our own world to meet the
world of our loved ones, rather than depending on
them to make our world.
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We decided that it
was no good asking
what is the meaning of life,
because life isn't an
answer, life is the question,
and you, yourself,
are the answer.
-- Ursula K.
LeGuin
How many
times have we felt like we were drifting
aimlessly, constantly searching for meaning in a
world that seems so mixed up, seeking direction
but getting nowhere?
But looked
at differently, "nowhere" becomes "now here."
When we
take things apart, stand back, and examine them
from a different angle, we often find we held the
answer from the beginning. Sometimes, when we're
convinced we are the problem, we discover we were
the solution all along.
When we
look for true understanding, we can be sure it
exists in this moment, and that we can find it
within ourselves, with God's help.
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